Sunday, March 30, 2014

Strengths in the Weakness

“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”

-Walt Disney

And this is true for all of us. No matter how aware we are, how on top of things in our lives, we make mistakes and there are points when we need a "kick" to fix the things we have damaged. Some things may be beyond fixing, but for careers and a life's purpose, it is never too late.

And it's like that with everything. The people who still don't understand the good that comes from the sickness, death, slavery, and the horrible personal struggles in the world haven't had this kick, this realization of how struggle can strengthen. However, in terms of people's lives, struggle can also weaken us, if we let it. There is always a point when somebody makes that choice between letting a struggle defeat them or letting it strengthen them.

I may have chosen the unpredictable path of a classic academic by not only not pursuing, but dropping out of a PhD program, the highest academic degree one could get in psychology, but I am still me. Don't allow the labels and the actions associated with those labels to overpower you. People now, as they always did, look at me, a passionate student, and say "you're going to have five PhDs and you still won't be done" and I say "no, I will not," and I know this. Because that is not my path, there are many paths for each passion. Mine is no longer making the long and arduous climb up without a top in sight, but strolling along and grasping at everything I see along the way.


  1. I came across your post because I always feel like a failure and am in a similar situation. But with failure, thats not really true because in my head I am letting myself fail by not "managing" my time and life well or not "trying" hard enough. I feel stupid, and I think anytime I try to take on graduate school... I collapse under indecision and build up all this unnecessary pressure. I am still undecided with my career and I thought this was it. Now I feel even more confused. Everyone around me thinks highly of me but in my self-worth it means nothing because externally I can never prove the value at these "tests" or academic places. I don't really know if there is strength in this weakness. I have low self-image and in no way is this any achievement in my life. In terms of school/degree it is a complete set back... In my views the struggle is the crawl through school... what do you think?

  2. I found this post today. I can empathize with your situation. Everyone around me sees me as someone who will go on to get his PhD. But meanwhile I'm not really feeling it. I got my Master's, but after 3 additional semesters of spilt milk here in a PhD program, I just want to move on. I'm not going to pass my oral tomorrow because I didn't prepare well for it -- not because I was ignorant of HOW to prepare for it. Just because subconsciously I knew I didn't want to spend my time that way.

    It's time my conscious mind catches up with my subconscious and begins the drop-out process. Tomorrow is a big day.